Or is it all just a marketing hype?
Personally I like to think that my hubby has made some effort every 14th February. After all, we’ve been a couple since 1989 so I at least deserve some recognition, right? Actually, no I don’t think I do deserve it as such – I’d like to think I do but that’s not quite the same thing. We shouldn’t ever take each other for granted, at least not for long, as anything might happen and we could be left with a lifetime of regret. I don’t ever go to bed on an argument as I always like to clear the air, not that I am particularly argumentative but we only get one shot at this so I try to keep it positive.
I rang him today at work, just to say hi. We chatted for about 6 minutes about his work, my day with the children, our plans for picking up the 2 oldest girls this evening from 2 different places on his way home. and what was for dinner.
Neither of us actually mentioned what the phone call was really about, we didn’t need to.
Our second daughter Billie should have been 16 today. But she was an angel baby, she died in the womb too young and too frail to survive.
We are blessed beyond words – we have five healthy beautiful children who mean the world to us. But Valentine’s Day for us is always tinged with some sadness. What could have been. A lost dream. Lives adjusted and never quite the same.
It’s not been about the cake, the romance or the roses since 1997. it’s been about remembering that anything can happen to throw your world out of balance and being grateful for what we actually have. It’s been about celebrating the living children we have (dh used to try and take the 14th off every year so we could take the kids out – this year he had too much on) and making the extra time to tell each other that we love each other. It’s about kind words, patience and an extra hug on the sofa tonight.
Happy Valentines Day.