Not going Well

21 Jan

The tantrum train has been stopping at our house this week.

I know they are tantrums and not full-blown meltdowns, but it scarcely matters as M is unable to function properly either way.

Her sister has gone back to university, and with it has come the inability to accept the change in routine and to family life. It’s not even as if M spends hours with E when she is home, but the fact that is here makes it all right in M’s World. 

It was pretty awful back in September when E went away for the first time, but somehow I expected it to be easier this time. How wrong I was! M’s PSA*, the rather wonderful Mrs T, had a suggestion this afternoon that perhaps it’s worse precisely because M knows how she felt in September so the dread of the emotions plus the emotions themselves have tipped her over the edge. Either way, there is very little I can do for my wee girl except keep calm, keep the routine, and keep the reassurance that I am still here for her.

After Monday when M went to school half an hour late and in her pyjamas, and today when she was 15 minutes late and mercifully dressed, it would be nice to think that tomorrow we will achieve fully clothed and on time. But, if we don’t then we don’t – her autism is playing all the parts in the story of her life right now, and I have to accept that that role is bigger than everything else at the moment.

 

*Pupil Support Assistant

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3 Responses to “Not going Well”

  1. L (@Mamaasp) January 21, 2014 at 4:07 pm #

    so sorry, your having a hard time at the moment, big hugs from me to you xxtake care

  2. aviets January 21, 2014 at 5:48 pm #

    I totally understand her difficulty with the changes in the household when a sibling goes back to college…in fact I posted on that very topic today because I’ve discovered how painful it is to have to keep saying goodbye over and over again. I hope things get easier for you both as time goes by. -Amy at http://www.momgoeson.wordpress.com

  3. Tracy January 21, 2014 at 6:08 pm #

    You know that I can empathise with all this..I wish there was something I could do to help you… but I can send you a hug from here & hope that tomorrow is a better day for M xXx

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